Networking in medicine often feels like a tough balancing act - projecting confidence and also maintaining authenticity. Many professionals find it challenging to be vulnerable, especially in a field steeped in perfectionism. But as Lucens member Shehzad Batliwala, DO, MGM explains, vulnerability is not a weakness—it’s a gateway to genuine, supportive relationships.

Question:‍

I’ve always felt this pressure to come across as polished and “perfect” when meeting people in my specialty. But it can feel exhausting—and honestly, a little fake. How do I build real, lasting connections in medicine?
— J.D., Cardiologist, 2 years practicing - Seattle, WA

‍Shehzad:

I get it. That pressure to seem like you have everything figured out? It’s a huge barrier, and I wish I had learned earlier that it’s okay to let it go. The truth is, vulnerability is your greatest strength when it comes to forming genuine connections.

When I started my career, I was so focused on being perceived a certain way—confident, polished, like I had all the answers. I avoided showing my fears, doubts, or mistakes because I thought it would make me seem weak. But over time, I realized something big: the people who truly connect with you—the ones who become your allies, mentors, and collaborators—are the ones who appreciate your authenticity.

I’ll give you an example: I used to think that if I shared my uncertainties—whether it was about a clinical decision or something I was struggling with personally—it would alienate people. But I found the opposite to be true. When I started being open about my challenges, I noticed people respected me more. They saw me as real, and that made them more willing to help and connect.

[Editor: We were curious to learn more on this! So we asked Shezhad - ‘Why?’ - specifically, why does it feel so risky? Especially in medicine, there’s this fear of being judged or seen as “less than” if you’re not perfect.]

Shehzad:

You’re right—it is risky. And in medicine, that fear is magnified because we’re in a culture that values certainty and perfection. Admitting you don’t have all the answers can feel like failure.

But here’s the thing: vulnerability isn’t about weakness—it’s about strength. When you share your fears or uncertainties, you’re showing courage.

Think about it this way: not everyone is going to accept you for who you are. And that’s okay. The faster you’re open about who you are, the faster you’ll find the people who belong in your life—and let go of the ones who don’t. It’s like the Elon Musk approach to rockets: you might have to burn through a few that don’t work, but eventually, you’ll find the one that sticks.

I’ve found that when I’m unapologetically myself, I connect more deeply with people who really matter. The more I lean into that, the more authentic and fulfilling my professional relationships have become.

Key Takeaway:

Authenticity is your secret weapon in building a network. Ditch the need to appear perfect, and focus on showing your true self. When you’re vulnerable, you invite deeper connections with the right people. And those are the relationships that will sustain you through the highs and lows of your career.

Here's a breakdown of why perfectionism happens and what you can do about it.

The Perfectionist Culture in Medicine

• Most physicians are trained in environments where confidence equals competence.
• Medical errors can have real consequences—so admitting doubt feels dangerous.
• Performance evaluations, training hierarchies, and peer competition can suppress openness.

But here’s the paradox: the very thing we fear—being seen as less than perfect—is exactly what makes us more human and relatable. And that’s where trust begins.

Try This: Vulnerability Practice

Before your next conference, clinical rotation, or networking event:

• Instead of leading with credentials, share something you're currently learning or wrestling with.
• Ask someone, “What’s been the hardest part of your job lately?” and actually listen.
• Reflect afterward: did that connection feel more real than usual?

This simple shift can unlock a new kind of conversation—one that builds trust fast and lasts longer.

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